Being Indian is not
A sentence to a life
Of misery!
Resist the guilt-trip.
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...I appreciate your course—the quality is truly top-tier. The videos are incredibly well made and have been very helpful. Thank you so much for making them available!
—Anonymous Course Member
Why Should You Enroll in My Toxic Guilt Course?
I SEE YOU. I know how much you care about your family and your community. I know your parents, your extended family, your peers, and your community guilt you into thinking you’re not doing enough. And I know how much you guilt-trip yourself. I see how much you do for everyone else around you, except yourself.
You’re not a “Bad” Indian for listening to your gut and having a sense of self. It feels like you’re going crazy right? Where’s the line between having boundaries and being cruel? Where’s the line between caring for yourself and caring for others? Where’s the line between confidence and arrogance? How do we know what’s right and what’s wrong?
Toxic guilt is when your family, your culture, or your community have conditioned you into believing that you’re doing something wrong, when you’re actually not. Toxic guilt is conditioned guilt. Guilt is not a bad emotion to have—it’s actually a healthy one. But what happens when your guilt is actually a reflection of someone else’s traumas? A reflection of someone else’s values rather than your own? It’s time to invest in yourself, explore your own values, and the kind of person YOU want to be when you show up for your people!
I’m an Indian American therapist who thought I was a “Bad Indian” for a long time…
I used to think that I wasn’t “Indian enough” for having a sense of self, that I was doing something wrong for knowing my limits and for saying “No” to things that felt unfair. I struggled with thinking I was doing something “evil”, but it took years of my own therapy and training to realize that I was trusting my gut, and trusting my gut actually protected me and the people I love. I realize now that my relationship to my cultural identity belongs to me and me alone! And I’ve been helping many Indian and South Asian Americans come to their own realizations about their relationship to community and culture too!
Now I’m taking what my clients and I have learned to help guide Bad Indians like you who feel confused and frustrated!
I’ll teach you what worked for me and for my clients over the years!
Together we’ll…
💚 Stop guilt-tripping yourself
💚 Trust yourself and your intuition
💚 Communicate better
💚 Set boundaries with yourself
💚 Challenge negative beliefs about belonging
The guilt you feel isn’t your burden to carry.
My toxic guilt course unpacks the myths and facts about what it means
to be your own person in a collectivist culture.
Just because you feel bad doesn't mean that what you're doing is bad, or that you're a Bad Indian because of it.
Let’s be Bad Together!
Have questions?
Email me at info@thebadindiantherapist.com to get the most out of my course!
Tracy Vadakumchery, LMHC, LPCC
License No. 010223 (NY), 13487 (CA), TPMC2283 (FL)
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