Perfect Indian Girl™ Syndrome is when we expect Indian American women to be the perfect daughters, sisters, workers, girlfriends, wives, with complete obedience and without question. Perfect Indian Girl™ Syndrome is a phenomenon. We are expected to be “good”, or otherwise, “perfect”, by people both within and outside of our culture!
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Read MoreWe’re at the end of the first month of 2023. On Instagram and TikTok, I see many people embracing soft living, work-life balance, and healing from within. In this really unclear post-pandemic (if we can even call it that) era, more people are embracing the benefits that come with remote work, such as flexible travel and taking breaks as needed.
Read MoreIs it me, or does it feel like somehow the details of our personal lives become everyone’s business, just by virtue of being Desi? Even people who aren’t related to us in any way want to know if we’ve found the “perfect” South Asian partner who will make our family look good, or how much money we make. The moment we meet someone new at a family gathering, it’s like they know our whole resume.
Read MoreHere’s the thing: There’s no such thing as a person that everybody likes. That person doesn’t exist. I give you permission to stand your ground. Be loud. Raise your voice. People will say things, maybe even your relatives will back your boundary violator. Set the boundary and be firm about it anyway. Raise Hell.
Read MoreEye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a type of trauma therapy that allows your brain to go over the details of past events that still affect you. This can be anything from a sexual assault to a terrible boss you had at a past job. You don’t need to have PTSD to get help from EMDR!
Read MoreIf you come from a culture that places an emphasis on perfectionism in your career, in your marriage, and in your family, you might believe that all of these things are supposed to be in your control.
Read MoreIt’s imperative to call out domestic violence in our community. As South Asian Americans, there is already a racist stereotype perpetuated in the media that South Asian men are brutally misogynistic.
Read MoreLeave the cave of secrecy and shame! When I was a freshman in high school, a Black girl my age, let’s call her T, sat across from me on the bus. She was speaking to me about an Indian immigrant student, let’s call her G, who recently moved to our suburb from India.
Read MoreAnd Why It’s Hard When You’re South Asian. It was Easter, and I was video calling my siblings when my dad suddenly took my brother’s phone and, after a couple of minutes of small talk, said, “Your thighs look huge and you look like you’ve gained weight. Tell me how much you weigh?”
Read MoreExpressing gratitude for my country of citizenship doesn’t mean that I ignore the problems. That’s toxic positivity.
Read MorePeople ask us how to cope when their world feels like it’s falling apart. The thing is our world is falling apart too.
Read MoreReading a good book, watching TV, painting, or even learning a language are all things that are joyful but take a tiny amount of effort, so I wonder, “Why can’t I be at peace like this when I’m focused on work?
Read MoreTravel can provide many mental health benefits. It forces you to get out of your comfort zone and do something that potentially increases your anxiety levels.
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