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Why Boundary Setting Looks a Little Different When You’re Brown

Is it me, or does it feel like somehow the details of our personal lives become everyone’s business, just by virtue of being Desi? Even people who aren’t related to us in any way want to know if we’ve found the “perfect” South Asian partner who will make our family look good, or how much money we make. The moment we meet someone new at a family gathering, it’s like they know our whole resume.

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Why Brown Girls Shouldn’t Be Afraid to Be Rude

Here’s the thing: There’s no such thing as a person that everybody likes. That person doesn’t exist. I give you permission to stand your ground. Be loud. Raise your voice. People will say things, maybe even your relatives will back your boundary violator. Set the boundary and be firm about it anyway. Raise Hell.

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