STOP betraying yourself for the culture!

Therapy for the “good” Brown daughter who’s TIRED of abandoning herself!

the “Bad indian” Therapist

Hey there! I’m Tracy,

I work with Brown women who struggle with chronic guilt, shame, and self-abandonment with their identity and in their relationships!

I’m an EMDR Certified™ licensed therapist in New York, New Jersey, and California who can help you stop letting cultural guilt and shame take the wheel and embrace your desires—without the guilt-trip!

If you’ve been questioning the things you’ve been told about being a “good” daughter or a “good” woman, but you’re afraid of being judged or shunned for your thoughts,

you’ve come to the right place!

I’m for the “Good girl” who’s had ENOUGH of:

Hiding parts of your life to avoid being shunned or disowned.
Having to earn your place in the family
Culture and religion trumping your safety
Transactional relationships disguised as being “community-oriented”
Being called “selfish” or “greedy” for dreaming BIGGER
Waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Cultural conditioning made you believe that your’e a “bad” kid.

But that voice isn’t yours. Somewhere along the way you lost your voice and let culture or family speak for you. But you can still find your voice.

Let’s find it Together!

Why I'm "bad" too!

Why My Approach is Different

You might have had either one of the two:

A white therapist who was nice but didn’t get it
A Brown therapist who was too quick to give advice, told you “Just talk to your parents”, and/or prioritized culture over your safety

I’m very clear: it’s not my job to be a cultural guru. It’s my job to make sure you’re safe. You don’t have to worry about being too “Western” or too “Brown” with me.

You don’t have to choose between Being “Brown Enough” and Western Therapy

I combine cultural responsiveness with therapy like EMDR and CBT. You’re the expert of your own lived experience; I’m the expert of mental health—together, we collaborate on something we can build!

Let's build something together!

I’m the right fit for you if…

You’re sick of suffering to prove that you care.
You’re exhausted from trying to be for everyone else but yourself.
You don’t want to continue going on this way.
You’re tired of everyone getting to have a say over your life…except you!
You’re ready to take agency over your life and make a change
You have these conditions from putting yourself last and you’re looking for the following types of therapy:

Guilt only makes sense if you did something wrong. Shame only makes sense if you have a bad attitude about it. So why do YOU feel bad about putting yourself first for people who doin’t feel the least bit guilty for how they treat you?

How Guilt and Shame Gets in Your Way
You’re allowed to dream bigger. You’re allowed to ask for more. But what does “more” mean when you don’t know where culture ends and YOU begin?
Enough is Enough
Is it your anxiety or is it your intuition? If you were praised for being a “good” daughter one moment, and scapegoated the next, anxiety can feel like eat or be eaten.
You don’t need control to have agency
In a world where things are out of your control, where everyone gets to have a say in your life except you, sometimes controlling what you eat isn’t about how you look, it’s about relief.
You have agency
Just because abuse was normalized as “cultural” doesn’t make it okay. If you’ve started to question the things you’ve been told, you’ve come to the right place.
It Ends With You

I’m not a good fit for you if:

You have shiny object syndrome, you don’t want to unlearn before you learn, you’re not ready to question the ways you’ve been culturally conditioned to shrink yourself, you don’t believe you deserve to invest in yourself, and you don’t believe you’re worthy of the same care you give the people in your life. If you’re waiting for your life to change or the people around you to change, you’ll be waiting forever!