Stop betraying yourself for the culture!
Therapy for the “good” Brown daughter who’s tired of abandoning herself!
the Bad indian Therapist
Hey there! I’m Tracy,
I work with Brown women with chronic guilt, shame, and self-abandonment with their identity and in their relationships!
I’m an EMDR Certified™ licensed therapist in New York, New Jersey, and California who helps you stop letting cultural guilt and shame take the wheel and embrace your desires!
If you’ve been questioning the things you’ve been told about being a “good” daughter or a “good” woman,
You’ve come to the right place!
I’m for the “Good girl” who’s had ENOUGH of:
Hiding parts of your life to avoid being disowned.
Having to earn your place in the family
Culture and religion trumping your safety
Transactional relationships disguised as being “community”
Being called “selfish” or “greedy”
Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Cultural conditioning made you believe that your’e a “bad” kid.
But that voice isn’t yours. Somewhere along the way you lost it.
Let’s find it Together!
Why I’m Different
You might have had either one of the two:
A white therapist who was nice but didn’t get it
A Brown therapist who was too quick to give advice, told you “Just talk to your parents”, and/or prioritized culture over your safety
I’m very clear: it’s not my job to be a cultural guru. It’s my job to make sure you’re safe.
You don’t have to choose between Being “Brown Enough” and Western Therapy
I’m the right fit for you if…
You’re sick of suffering to prove that you care.
You’re exhausted from trying to be for everyone else but yourself.
You’re tired of everyone getting to have a say over your life…except you!
You’re ready to take agency over your life and make a change
You’re looking for help for these issues and the following types of therapy:
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For Brown girls who feel like they’re constantly doing something wrong. I offer a safe and brave space for you to question the things you’ve been told.
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For the Brown girl who’s “too Brown” and “not Brown enough”. I help you unleash your frustration about rigid cultural rules and build a life that’s more true to YOU, not to other people.
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Is it your anxiety or is it your intuition? If you were praised for being a “good” daughter one moment, and scapegoated the next, anxiety can feel like eat or be eaten.
You don’t need control to have agency
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For the Brown girl who had to hide her eating disorder. I can help you feel whole again—even if it doesn’t mean loving your body or where you come from.
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For the Brown Girl Cycle-Breaker who was told that abuse is “just cultural”. I offer a gold standard of care for trauma to help you let go of your past, appreciate your present, and build your future.
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For Brown girls who want to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma but still feel stuck. Together, we can stop letting cultural guilt and shame dictate your life and embrace the nuances of your bicultural identity with culturally responsive EMDR!
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For Brown Girls with Intergenerational Trauma who need more than weekly therapy. My EMDR Intensives allow us to take our time together, build on your experience, and ease you into the process of EMDR in a more natural and culturally affirming way—without ending at the hour.
I’m not a good fit for you if:
You have shiny object syndrome
You don’t want to unlearn before you learn
You’re not ready to question the ways you’ve been culturally conditioned to shrink yourself
You don’t believe you deserve to invest in yourself
You don’t believe you’re worthy of the same care you give the people in your life.
If you’re waiting for your life to change or the people around you to change, you’ll be waiting forever!
Define Yourself Beyond “Log Kya Kahenge?”
Put yourself first. Now offering in-person therapy in New York City and virtual therapy all over New York, New Jersey, and California.
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