Why Boundary Setting Looks a Little Different When You’re Brown

Is it me, or does it feel like somehow the details of our personal lives become everyone’s business, just by virtue of being Desi? Even people who aren’t related to us in any way want to know if we’ve found the “perfect” South Asian partner who will make our family look good, or how much money we make. The moment we meet someone new at a family gathering, it’s like they know our whole resume.